In this article, we show how one can use the healing power of emotions. The majority of our ills and diseases come from within. True healing can be internal before being external. That’s why we have to heal from the inside to heal from the outside. Our life is both internal and external. Internal care can provide external healing. Just as external care can bring an internal benefit.
How many times have we felt bad for no apparent reason? The tensions we accumulate inside us are reflected outside. Recent studies have shown that psychological stress can be transmuted into physical diseases. To heal on the outside, we first need to control our internal conflicts.
Emotional tension slowly and inexorably hurts the body and is expressed through depression, anxiety, or stress. The bad channeling of emotional conflicts can cause a wide range of diseases such as diabetes mellitus, lupus, or leukemia.
Often, we think one thing and say another, or we feel one thing and we do another. We are not consistent with ourselves for fear of rejection, abandonment, criticism, or loss of prestige, and ultimately the judgment of others. By dint of thinking too much about valuing others, we forget our own judgment, which leads to an infinity of interpersonal conflicts.
The emotions we express affect our health and express themselves in the body through pain and disease. Our body sends us signals to draw our attention to the existence of something that needs to be changed, whether it is negative thoughts or distorted beliefs rooted in us that limit our lives. Deformities play a predominant role and are generated by emotional disturbance.
These perceptions and distorted thoughts that the subject realizes about himself, the world, and the future lead him to develop dysfunctional moods such as phobias, depression, self-esteem problems, anxiety, or even obsessive disorders. Cognitive deformations are thought errors that people constantly use to interpret reality unrealistically.
These perceptions are caused by errors in the processing of information and in emotional rather than rational processes. They can be based on firm unreal beliefs, but deformations are not beliefs in themselves, but habits of thought that lead us to negative emotions.
2. Control Yourself Emotionally to Heal Outside
Our emotions influence our thoughts and behavior, so it is extremely important to control them. Every event, as simple as it is, awakens in us very different emotions. This is due to the Limbic System, through which we can consider that emotions are part of us and our way of responding to the world.
The simplest of the techniques of emotional control is learning to avoid what generates negative emotions in us, be they people or situations. Although we must be wary of avoidance, because by adopting such behavior, we may have trouble solving our problems, this conduct is necessary for the control of negative emotions.
Another of the most natural and helpful techniques to control emotions before, during, and after a confrontation with emotionally intense situations is relaxation. By relaxing, one reaches a feeling of calm through which one can focus on the situation with more clarity.
The most contrasting techniques to control our emotions are cognitive techniques. To change our emotions, we must change our thoughts, since emotions and thoughts go hand in hand; if we change our thoughts, we can then regulate our emotions as well as our actions. Cognitive techniques such as mental testing thought detection and change of perspective will help us heal from the inside so we can heal on the outside.
Science has identified three healing emotions and feelings of body and soul: gratitude, love, and faith. These emotions and feelings can be cultivated to feel happier, more creative, improve relationships with others, and better resist infections and diseases. Emmanuel Duquoc, the author of the 3 emotions that heal tells you how.
Here are the three central emotions that heal and their corollaries that allow them to be summoned:
– Faith: carelessness, prayer, optimism, hope, courage, letting go, fluidity, trust, receptivity, doubt, devotion, protection.
– Love: politeness, honesty, respect, service, understanding, kindness, compassion, sharing, giving of oneself, tenderness, forgiveness, attachment, unconditional love.
– Gratitude: thanks, feeling of being loved, acceptance, mourning, blessing, satisfaction, gratitude, open heart, smile, simplicity, laughter, wonder, contemplation, joy.
*** The 3 Dimensions of Emotion
Emotion is not a thought; it is bodily and has several components:
– Neurophysiological: the vector of emotion is the autonomic nervous system. The emotion is transmitted via the hormones, chemical messengers that travel in the blood, inform the receivers at a distance, and induce physiological states.
– Expressive: the emotion is visible and understandable by the muscular movement and the expression of the face.
– Subjective: it is colored by our judgment, linked to our past experiences. Faced with the same stimulus, two people will not have the same emotion. The emotion is to be differentiated from the feeling which is of the order of the thought and which does not have its physiological component, it is not visible from the outside because it remains at the level of the spirit but it succeeds to the emotion and can also cause an emotion.
*** How to Use the Healing Power of Emotion to Be Happy and Improve One’s Health?
We use the human capacity to provoke emotions by thought. In the same way that the recall of a painful event is able to make us cry, to evoke a situation that has aroused a happy emotion makes us feel it again. Real or fictional, it does not matter. What matters at this stage is a happy feeling and an intense feeling. In addition, observing an inner feeling reinforces the scope and physiological power. Your brain likes comfort and these emotions are comfortable for him. He will remember it better and will come back to it.
With heart coherence, you add a physiological reward to the reward of feeling positive. Indeed, cardiac coherence induces a nervous and emotional regulation which itself causes a state of physical comfort. By practicing heart coherence while feeling positive, you reward yourself for feeling a positive emotion! Your heart and your body will love. Your brain will love it. He will learn very quickly! Imagine a child who is gratified every time he plays or laughs with him. He is likely to become a happy child.
You have reinforced the network of neurons of the brain circuits concerned by this emotion. In other words, you have widened the path to emotion. You have cleared it and you have improved the markup. Therefore, it will be easier to borrow the next time a situation allows the expression. Gradually, you will acquire emotional reflexes. The path will seem more tempting and you will walk it more often. You will know the details like your pocket and will borrow it willingly. In this way, sweetness, contentment, confidence, and other healing emotions will gradually become dominant features of your personality.
The healing emotion will become second nature and you will be happy to see it from time to time as many cardiac coherence practitioners have done. There are, of course, side effects to this medication. But it’s for a good cause. You may notice less tolerance for the negative emotions that come to you. Not negative events but negative emotions. When they show up, they will not be pleasant and you will tend to let them settle. It’s normal. When you get used to comfort, it’s hard to let go.
*** Example: Cultivate the Feeling of Being Loved
Through brain imaging, it has been observed that feelings of altruism, compassion, and happiness for the other are related to the intense activity of the left prefrontal cortex, an area involved in feelings of well-being, positive emotions, and the retreat from negative emotions.
In traditional Buddhist practice, it is recommended to start by stimulating one’s own aspiration for happiness and then extending it to others. First of all the dear ones, then the other beings, friends or enemies, humans, animals, and plants. We find the same recommendation in the mouth of Christ: “Love your neighbor as yourself”. Such advice puts self-love as the foundation of universal love.
Psychology confirms the crucial importance of self-esteem as a basis for mental balance and any harmonious relationship. One can only love healthily from the love received and the feeling of being loved oneself. The great monotheistic religions such as Hinduism, Judaism, or Christianity celebrate the unconditional love of God for men. Altruism and compassion are the keys to happiness for Buddhists, just as the love of neighbor is the key to the kingdom of God for Christians. These feelings are inseparable from that of being loved and grateful.
At Harvard, Dr. McClelland asked people to meditate thinking of all those in their lives who had been good to them. The number of T cells (a marker of the quality of immunity) increased in these people in significant proportions.
Like Dr. McClelland’s guinea pigs, we can focus for a few moments on everyone who loved us, cared for or cared for us, or simply served us. The back straight, let’s practice large and regular breathing preferably in frequency six.
At any time, we can improve our well-being by feeling the emotions and feelings that this love has given us.